A rudimentary list of suggestions to be taken with ample salt as I’m not an expert, just someone who really loves researching the heck out of stuff.

When I got pregnant, waves of questions flooded my mind every waking hour and many of the sleeping ones. Where will I give birth, how, what will we name her, how will we get sleep and still work, how will we afford childcare, do I really have to give up sushi? The moment the pink line showed up on the pee stick, the worry set in.

My prenatal yoga instructor said, “pregnancy is the business of worry.” So I shouldn’t beat myself up about worrying on top of everything else.

In pregnancy, as in every other facet of my life…


My baby’s whole life has been lived in isolation.

The view from our house/Image by author

You were a little more than five months old, the day the sun didn’t rise.

We overslept a little that day because the sun didn’t rise.

The sky was dark hazy orange, and the weather cool, despite the previous three days being over 100 degrees.

You didn’t seem to notice the eerie calm coolness or the darkened sky. You were focused on rolling over and getting your knees under you to crawl.

Three weeks before the sun didn’t rise; you were discovering your fingers. You woke up happy in the middle of the night, while Grandma cried into the phone…


Job hunting tips for landing interviews and staying sane

Photo by Nik MacMillan on Unsplash

Originally written over a year ago, but I figured now was a good time to share some job hunting tips.

It’s been an exhausting two weeks, but it’s paying off with exciting new options. So how did I do it? How did I line up all those interviews, keep everything straight, complete all the assignments, and dazzle the hiring managers? In short, a little luck and a lot of hustle.

Here are some concrete things you can do to help boost your job search into high gear.

Quit

Three weeks ago, I left a job without another lined up. This isn’t…


Maybe marriage isn’t the problem, maybe I picked the wrong partner.

After my divorce I got rid of everything related to marriage. This included, but was not limited to:

  • Photos of us together
  • Souvenirs from trips
  • My kitchen-aid mixer (in my head wives bake and I wanted to rid myself of everything wifey)

I even threw my wedding ring into the Truckee river.

I vowed off vowing myself to another person. The institution was flawed and there’s no way around it. That was more than a year ago.

Between then an now a few things happened to me.

  1. I reconnected with my high-school boyfriend and the smoldering coals of love only needed a little kick to ignite a healthy, beautiful fire.


A tale of two last weeks.

The cake is a lie. Source: Pexels

They announced I was leaving at an all-staff lunch. The head of major gifts was also leaving and her departure was announced at the same time.

They wheeled out two cakes. On one cake the frosting read: We’ll miss you, Amber. The second cake’s sugary message was: Best wishes, Amber.

My name isn’t Amber.

In their defense they did get my a cake on my very last day and someone gave me a electric pencil sharpener off their desk in a last-minute gesture, recognizing my love for freshly sharpened pencils. That was about it.

I worked there more…


Knowing the signs and symptoms might have changed things.

My late ex-husband at the Grand Canyon on vacation, photo by me.

Me: I appreciate you and all the work you put into this relationship. Let’s kick ass for another 30 years and then another 30 after that.

Him: And then lets fly to space and incinerate upon re-entry. I want to die holding your hand like that.

Me: Awww, me too. I hope that’s an option in 60 years

Him: Like, I’m not even being ridiculous for a laugh, I’m being ridiculous because that idea is a real candidate my chosen method of leaving this world.

That was one of the last Google hangout conversations I ever had with my husband…


Robert Sutton knows company culture. Throughout his 30-year career as Professor of Management Science at the Stanford Engineering School, he’s interviewed business leaders and studied the ins and outs of corporate culture like few others. His books include Good Boss, Bad Boss: How to Be the Best…and Survive the Worst, The Asshole Survival Guide, and Scaling Up Excellence, which he co-authored with Huggy Rao.

As part of our Culture Changers series on what makes great company cultures we talked with Sutton about what he’s learned from watching organizations succeed and fail in crafting successful company culture.

How do you think…


We need to start talking about this major life change.

Source: Pexels

Divorce in too expensive to ignore in the workplace.

The Nashville Business Journal reported 70 percent of employees say they’ve worked at a lower productivity level due to their own or a co-worker’s divorce. A report from the Institute for American Values, the Institute for Marriage and Public Policy, the Georgia Family Council, and Families Northwest, argues “family fragmentation costs the U.S. taxpayer $112 billion per year, or $1 trillion each decade.”

When someone gets married they talk about it at work, show off the ring, put pictures on their desk. They bring that part of themselves to work. When…


Ryan Vanni is the CEO of Bukwild, an award-winning digital ad agency in Sacramento. He started his company at just 21 and didn’t have an understanding of the trends in business or what company culture really was. He’s quick to admit he had no idea what he was doing for most of the time.

Since launching in 2001, they’ve worked with clients amongst the likes of Amazon, Netflix, and Pandora. They just claimed a people’s choice Webby award for their work on Coachella’s website.

Vanni works particularly hard to craft the culture of Bukwild. He strives for a place where…


When building a completely remote company, Zapier leadership knows the importance of listening to their staff. Scattered across the globe, this team developed a different set of listening practices than a traditional office-based company.

Wade Foster, Bryan Helmig, and Mike Knoop started building workflow automation site, Zapier, in 2011 as a side hustle. They weren’t really thinking about creating a thriving, distributed, open company culture. They just wanted to build a tool to connect web apps and automate workflows.

Zapier (rhymes with happier) now has around 160 remote employees, and Foster is constantly looking for ways to improve camaraderie and…

Melody White

Journalist, designer, storyteller.

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